We made it—the dumpster fire that was 2016 is done—and the flood of new year’s resolutions seems to be running faster and deeper than usual this year. Even more so, it seems like folks are breaking free and dumping old baggage that held them back last year. That’s what today’s story is all about—the complexities embedded in all the commitments we make to ourselves and to others—and how sometimes, letting them all fall apart is the most compassionate thing to do.

This story comes from one of our favorite storytellers, Janae Burris. Janae is a comedian, actor, and a member of the comedy group the Pussy Bros. This story was recorded live on 20 January, 2016 at Buntport Theater in Denver, Colorado. The theme of the evening was “Promise.”

Here’s to new years and new promises. Enjoy.